Discernment Counseling For Couples On The Brink
If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. And Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slowdown, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.
Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help--and the other is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.
The counselor will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.
The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.
The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys.
You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with the counselor. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.
The counselor respects your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health.
The counselor emphasizes the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.
Number of Sessions:
A maximum of five counseling sessions. After each session, both individuals will decide if they would like to have an additional session or if they have enough clarity to make their decision. The first session is usually two hours for assessment and the subsequent are 1.5 or 2 hours.
Fees for Sessions:
Due to the extended length of sessions, the standard fee is $150 per session for a maximum of 5 sessions.
Discernment Counseling is not Suited for these situations:
• When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce
• When one spouse is coercing the other to participate
• When there is danger of domestic violence
Contact Us Today
If you feel that Discernment Counseling might be right for your situation, please complete the form and one of our therapists will contact you to do a free consultation with each of you.
If you’re not sure yet, or want to find out more, we do have a “video quiz” you can go through to better understand where you might be. Click here to go to the quiz.